I am what I am....A Dark Indian Women!!!!

Its a common feeling in India and most of South east Asia that, to be Beautiful is to be Fair skinned. No wonder there are loads of Ads for becoming unrealistically practical over an unrealistic period of seven days. Come on people, use that common sense a bit. Do you really think for the amount of money you are going to spend you can end up with several shades fairer that how you are right now??!!! There is small thing called melanin level that you re born with. This is your natural, born shade. To alter this to greater extent actually harms you in the long run (Try remembering Micheal Jackson). Most of us common people(not celebrities and rich, spoiled brats) don't even think of going for plastic surgeries(cosmetic) thinking thats its not needed or  that its not economic or that its not safe but never realize that trying to drastically change our complexion has similar health hazards.
Now lets talk about the Indian mentality regarding complexions.We Indians (the fairer ones especially) make sure that the darker beauties in our country are something to be criticized and looked down. I for myself am a dark beauty. At times I'm dusky and at times I'm just dark! I accepted this fact only a couple of years ago and feeling happy about the revelation. 
In North India, this discrimination over you complexion is very blatant. They form lowly opinion of you before they even talk to you, just based on your complexion. i hate this kind of behavior but i never let those cheap-ass skanks to undermine me. 
My principle is that you can groom yourself to look better. To have clearer skin without tans and any marks. Now that is a face that will look beautiful irrespective of the complexion. Keep you skin/face acne free, scar free and tan free, groom your eyebrows and keep them in shape. Now look at yourself and ask this, aren't I beautiful??? 
My inspiration or a role model is a wonderful women, Uma Preva. She is a role model to me because in her i see everything i want to be. To be happy with myself, my complexion and my beauty. And she is one hellava talented women when it comes to grooming herself. I find her makeup skills to be bold, wild, awesome and mainly confident. I consider her my role model because she is one of us, not some celebrity but a next door girl. This is her blog. Do check it out for fashion and beauty tips
If you think you have some skin problems that is not letting you shine at you best, consult a dermatologist who will prescribe you the necessary for it. Instead, many people opt for commercially available creams or buy themselves the dermatology based creams without prescription. Don't forget that even though they are creams, they are drugs and taking drugs without doctor's suggestion is definitely not going to do you any good.
I have a perfect case study to explain this point. I used to suffer from inferiority complex because of my dark skin. I would try anything to become even a bit fairer. I even went for all the creams available in the market as well as the ones marketed by Avon, Oriflame and so many other companies but nothing worked. I went to beauty parlours, went for facial after facial. One for removing tan, one for lightening skin and one for???...i don't remember anymore. Still nothing worked. Finally, at last i went to a dermatologist suggested by my friend and discovered that i have sensitive skin where my skin gets easily tanned and takes longer to return to my usual complexion. Without this knowledge in hand, I would still be looking for something or the other to improve my complexion. The Doc then prescribed me some creams that treats my sensitive skin first and asked me to refrain from facials as much as possible. When i look back at all those time i went for facials, bleaches and beauty creams, I cringe at the thought of how much i must have tortured my skin. Now with the skin problems gone and with proper grooming i look my best and most importantly am happy about it.
I' not saying all those expensive creams from reputed companies don't work. All i'm saying is, when the time comes (usually when creams don't work for YOU) consult a dermatologist to know your skin. This is my only advice.
One has to realize (especially women) that beauty is beauty no matter how dark or fair you are. Be who you are and believe you are beautiful!!!

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/04797878221885958978 Indgal

    Hey sudhaa!!! I am very happy I found your blog. I am a dark skin girl too 🙂 I know how hard it is to tackle the color discrimination at your teens. I have been there and I am happy with what I have.

    This is a nice post for the people to undestand that there is nothing wrong in what your skin color is. Hope you help many people with your blog.

    Following you now.

    Luv,
    Indgal

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/10243493747306997738 Mrs.G

    Thanks a million for commenting Indgal!!! Its true, dark Indian girls got through a lot of stress when it comes to selecting cosmetics. Actually i was feeling a little sad since no one had posted. Glad that you did 🙂
    Please join my blog if you are interested.

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/10243493747306997738 Mrs.G

    Thanks for joining Indgal!!!!

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/04797878221885958978 Indgal

    🙂

  • Melody

    Hi Sudhaa! I dont think the discrimination against people with dark skin only happens in India. You should come here in the Philippines and you will find out that there are some people here thinks that fair skin is beautiful and dark skin is the yucky thing. Whitening products are all over the place. Im part Chinese and part Filipino but I have brown skin, some chinese folks dont see me as a chinese because my skin color doesnt match theirs.. i dont care, really. This is my color and so be it!

    Nice blog by the way.

    More Power!

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/02815454048007934337 Sudhaa Gopinath

    Thanks Melody!! Complexion does not determine if the person is beautiful or not. People are crazy abt complexion here in India too. But that is not going to stop any dusky beauties.
    Thanks for the support!!

    Cheers
    Sudhaa

  • Dark damsel in distress

    Hi.I just stumbled across this wonderful blog of yours while searching for make up tips for dark skin.I am 22 yrs old and doing my MBA. And for past 22 yrs been a target of taunts for having a dark skin.Even when I go to any make up stores at malls near my home,I feel like the sales gals are judging me or making fun of my skin color.And most of the time not at all helpful.I am completely ignorant about make up.So if its not too much trouble for you,can you please help me out with the make up thing.I have super oily acne prone dark skin. I have no idea what sunscreen to use,what compact powder to choose,what lipstick shade is right for me.Can you plz tell me any ''Indian brands'' for compacts,lipstick and sunscreen which are not too costly for a student with limited pocket money,suitable for super oily,acne prone,super dark skin.Thank you for such a wonderful blog

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/02815454048007934337 Sudhaa Gopinath

    Hi girl!!! Thanks for visiting my blog. I know how you feel as i have felt that way most of my life. I have felt inferior when people look at me and feel as if they are judging me. But now, i have cleansed my mind about this complexion issue. The darkness is not in our skin but in the hearts of those who jusge people on their skin colour. So fret no my dear, as there is nothing wrong with us girls 🙂
    As far as it comes to makeup keep checking my blog as i mostly concentrate on affordable brands and products. There are more posts coming up along these lines, so do keep checking 🙂
    And in regards to your acne prone face issue: Use saslic foaming face wash.Even if you think its priced high, its a good investment for this issue and it does come for a long time.
    And in regards to cosmetic, i will be reviewing some from Incolour Cosmetic. Its kinda new but super affordable.
    Hope you read this comment and find this useful. Feel free to contact me for discussing anything you want.
    Take care darl!!!

  • Dark damsel in distress

    Thank you so much dear.You are a sweetheart.Bookmarked your blog.Went through it last night and thankfully got a lil idea of what brands to try and what brands to stay away from.Though if you don't mind can I ask a very silly question.Which compact of Lakme or Lotus would be best for oily dark skin?